Millennials are by and large not an always happy generation. Millennial expert and author of Generation Me Dr. Jean Twenge says the trouble starts in their mid-20's and goes downhill from there. “They’re really angry. Many of them say, ‘Nobody told us it is going to be this hard. And I think they have a point,” she tells KTRH News. Twenge says millennials have had a host of influences as they’ve grown up – technology’s impact and social media among them – but says as parents, maybe we’ve failed. After all, we didn't really tell them the truth. “They believed their parents when their parents told them they’re special. And the problem with that is that’s not even self-esteem, that’s narcissism. And what happens when they go out into the world and the world doesn’t teach them special,” she says.
Twenge says parents of millennials have tried to give their children everything they can: a good education, after-school activities, advanced education. But often the children are not turning out the way we thought they would. “As parents when we are looking at our kids, first we have to realize they have been influenced by a lot of things – not just our parenting.” The generation that invented selfies are learning their parents, with the best of intentions, did give off some wrong signals. “We’ve believed that we really need to emphasize self-esteem and having kids feel good about themselves, when in actuality that can be taken too far. And it looks like that’s what’s happened with millennials,” Twenge says.
Twenge says the generation aged 18 to 35 is experiencing higher rates of depression and anxiety as they grow up and find not everyone wins a trophy.
They end up on the couch, disillusioned or in your office, unhappy.